Are you into Hot cougars? Here’s how to bang them (9 steps)

Have you found that you’ve become more and more interested in older women? Do you want to live out your fantasy of banging your buddy’s hot mom? Are you tired of seemingly dating the same girls and having the same conversations and having the same boring sex? Well if this is the case, it sounds like you need to start getting with cougars.

While you might have slayed with the younger ladies in the past, dating women who are older than you require a different kind of finesse. You’re not going to be able to impress them with your job or with compliments alone, you’re going to have to learn the art of seduction.

Here’s how to seduce a cougar into bed with you:

1. Know where to go to troll

You’re not going to find a cougar at a local college bar or the kind of bar with drink deals every night of the week. Well, if you do find a cougar there it probably isn’t going to be the one of your dreams.

You’re going to need to know where to go for cougars! Cougar bars have a very specific vibe. The drink specials will probably be named something as aggressive as Urban Decay names their makeup (they literally have shades named thing like “slut” and “virgin”, look for a place with that vibe).

The décor will probably be gaudy and there will probably be a ton of pink. Those are the bars you should target.
2. Buy her a drink… no, not a well drink

There are some moves that work on all age groups… buying a drink is one of those moves. But make sure you approach her first, ask her what she’s drinking, ask if you can buy her another one.

There is nothing more uncomfortable than a guy appearing out of nowhere with a drink in his hand insisting that he bought it just for you. Ew, gross. Buy her something nice and splurge for a middle tier liquor.

3. Know just what to say

DON’T MENTION AGE. You can ask what she does for a living and comment on how hard she must have worked to get there. You can ask questions like that which might age her, but don’t bring age into it unless you’re implying it’s a good thing.

4. A quick note on flirty body language

You need to make sure that your body language matches what you’re saying.
Face her, lean toward her when she talks, make eye contact, nod and practice active listening. Reach out and touch her when she says something funny or mentions a hardship.

5. Build sexual tension if she’s feelin’ it

Through a combination of strategic touches and brushes of fingertips you should start to build some physical tension. Throw a few sincere compliments, that don’t sound canned, her way and you should feel it mounting.
6. Hit her with the “Let’s get out of here”

Once she appears to be just as interested in you, ask if she’d like to go back to yours. Or if that seems too forward see if she wants you to escort her home… just to her door of course… and when she asks if you want to come in for a night cap, say yes.

7. If she’s not the type to fuck on the first date…

A lot of older women become suspicious when younger men approach them. So, it might take a second date before she’s willing to go home with you. That’s fine! Just make sure she goes home with your number and dinner plans for next week.  However, if you are looking cougars that are interested in fucking tonight, then head over to cougar dating hookup.  This is a more casual site to meet cougars on.

8. Take HER to dinner

While you might be hoping for a sugar mama situation, you need to prove that you’re not a child first. Pay when you go out for dinner or drinks. She might insist that she picks up the tab the next time, which is fine, but you need to show that you’re grown.

9. Rinse and repeat

Flirt your ass off. You might need to go for a third date, which is fine! Maybe you’ve landed yourself a fuck buddy at this point. But keep repeating the flirting instructions until she can’t resists the invitation back to your place.

5 Rules For Dating College Nerds

There are students studying anatomy (they’re always studying), physics, bio chem, and some others tackling more than one class before heading home. You find a table, and there’s one other person sitting there.

You politely ask if they’d mind if you sat there, and they squeak out a “Sure”, and for all you know it was the first time they spoke to someone this week. In the midst of a difficult chapter, you look over at them and realize they’re kinda cute.

An hour passes, and it seems like they’ve gotten cuter. You make eye contact unexpectedly and look away quickly, a slight smile betraying your efforts to remain cool.

Fast forward a week or two and you’ve got a date set up with this person. They’re unlike anyone you’ve dated before; you might have had your share of jocks or popular people or just some random, normal person, but this is different.

You’ve never dated a nerd before.

There are some things you’ll need to know if you want to get it right this time, so pay attention to these five tips I’ve curated for you just for a situation like this; dating a nerd.

1: Their studies will always be a priority. For a good amount of us, school isn’t the highest priority in college – it’s getting turnt. 

For someone who’s a bit nerdy, getting faded is near the bottom of the list and getting an A in every class is the main objective. They may looking to the future, so forgive them if it’s a friday night and you want to go out but they don’t want to.

Now, I don’t mean that you should just go along with it and go out alone or stay in. Show them how much progress they’ve made over the semester and how a little break won’t set them back at all.

Nerds have always been a bit nerdy, and were not really invited out to do stuff in high school. They might feel like they wouldn’t fit in at a party when that’s not true at all.

As their S.O., they’ll need you to help them get out of their routine and enjoy some of the less-educational aspects of college.

Help them get through their studies, and show them that a reward is never a bad thing. They’ve been studying so much that without you they could miss out on some great college experiences that’ll help them in the post-college world.

2: Show them how much you care because they might feel like you’re out of their league. Nerds don’t typically date the homecoming queen in high school, so if you date a nerd make sure they feel like you’re equals in the relationship. 

A lot of people may feel a little insecure in a relationship, and that’s not very fun. As their boyfriend/girlfriend you’ll need to show them how much you mean to them.

That’s something that is needed in every relationship, but it might be even more crucial here. I’m not saying all nerds are unconfident and don’t have much self-worth, but we all get a little down sometimes and having someone you love show you how much you mean to them will be the kick that you need.

The more you show them you love them, they’ll be happier and more confident, and this will make them a better S.O. for you too. Win-win when you’re nice to someone.

3: You might need to help them branch out socially. Nerdy people aren’t really asked out the chill or party with other people very often. 

If you date a nerd, you might need to help them get their feet wet and help them get out of their comfort zone. This will not only make them a better date, but being able to socialize is a skill that can go a long way in adult life (I don’t know for certain but once I’m an adult I’ll fill you in).

They might feel like people will be all judgey, but assure them that no one will and that they’ll fit right in. Show them the fun side of college and they’ll have a much better experience and will walk away with some fond memories.

They’re working almost too hard on their studies so it’s up to you to show them how to unwind and enjoy some of the finer things of college. Toss the textbook and toss back a few shots.

4: They might seem shy but they desperately want to open up. 

Nerds have never had it very easy socially. In high school they may have been shunned or just ignored, and they never really had many people to talk to.

Just because you’re dating nerds doesn’t mean that they’ll suddenly open up and become a social butterfly; timidness is hard to outgrow. Even if they seem distant it doesn’t mean they are; no one has really talked with them and they’ve never been very open with people, so it’ll take them a little time to become truly comfortable with you. One thing you can do is take interest in their interests. Maybe they’ve never really met anyone who likes what they like, and haven’t really gotten a chance to have discussions about it.

If you can delve into their interests and get them to be more open with you, they’ll start to open up to other people as well and this will help them become more social and friendly. If you can get them out of their comfort zone, you’ll have shown them a side of themselves that they didn’t know existed, and will be happier and live a generally improved life because of it.

5: Find some nerdy common ground. If they’re truly nerdy, there will be something that they’re very passionate about. 

Maybe it’s Star Wars, or something completely different, but if you can find an interest in that or if you find something that both of you care deeply about, that can be a big help in your relationship.

Couples always need something that they can do together that brings them closer (besides sex), and if there’s something a little nerdy that you both love, that can solidify your connection to each other.

Not to mention all of the nerdy discussions and inside jokes you can have. Those can go a long way.

Dating someone a little nerdy isn’t really different from dating anyone else, but there are some things that can help you strengthen the relationship. They might not have many friends or be that sociable, but they have you, and you have them, and that’s all that should matter.